“If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.”
Romans 12:18 (ESV)
Reflection
Conflict is unavoidable in leadership. Boards disagree, staff members clash, and congregations divide over decisions large and small. Many leaders either avoid conflict until it erupts or meet it with a force that leaves damage behind.
Paul’s instruction is realistic. If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all. He acknowledges that peace is not always possible and that it does not depend entirely on us. But he places a clear responsibility on our side of the relationship.
For leaders, that means owning our part, speaking truthfully, listening well and pursuing reconciliation where we can. It means refusing to let bitterness take root, even when the other person does not respond as we hope. Peacemaking is not weakness. It is one of the most courageous things a leader can do.
For your leadership this week
- Identify one strained relationship in your leadership, and consider what part depends on you.
- Own one part of a conflict, even a small one, and acknowledge it to the other person.
- Seek outside help if a conflict has become entrenched or harmful.
Pivot question
In the conflict you are facing, what part depends on you?
Prayer
Lord, make me a peacemaker. Show me my part in the conflicts around me, and give me humility and courage to pursue reconciliation where it is possible. Amen.
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